You can wake up from the Bet, Lie nightmare by taking action.
The Bet, Lie nightmare traps everyone involved with a gambling addiction. Waiting to take action prolongs the nightmare for you and your family. Taking action means you are making it your business to end the nightmare.
The State of Nebraska offers free, confidential counseling with certified counselors for Nebraskans and their families who suffer a gambling addiction.
Call the GAP 24/7 Emergency Helpline 1-833-BetOver (238-6837) or Find a Counselor near you and make the call. Calling for assistance is the first best action you can take.
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The official State of Nebraska confidential problem gambling helpline.
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We set aside money to pay bills . . . and we discover the money is missing; we find ourselves hiding money for safekeeping.
We feel that our loved one cannot be trusted with money.
We find ourselves wanting to search our loved one’s clothing, wallets, closets, electronic devices, bank statements, financial statements, etc., for evidence to confirm our suspicions; or we find scratch-off tickets, lottery tickets, loan books, etc. hidden away in the house or even the family car.
Our significant other may be inexplicably unavailable and unreachable, neglecting and jeopardizing employment and family responsibilities.
We notice a personality change in our loved one as their gambling progresses; perhaps their behavior becomes unpredictable with angry outbursts or moodiness or depression.
When confronted, the gambler will either deny that gambling is a problem or will promise to curtail or stop it; however, the gambling continues, often in secret.
Our gambler justifies that gambling will solve financial problems.
We resort to making threats in an effort to control the gambler; we are promised the gambling will stop; we submit to pleas for another chance, but, then the gambling continues again and again. We doubt ourselves and wonder what is wrong with us that we cannot stop our loved one from gambling.
Our gambler may not be able to hold on to a job due to gambling and irresponsible behavior; our family’s security and financial well-being are jeopardized due to gambling.
Our gambler may consider or commit illegal and fraudulent acts to finance the gambling.
We are lied to or manipulated by our gambler; things do not make sense; the gambler can make us feel guilty, shifting blame onto us, suggesting we are the cause for the gambling. We lose trust in ourselves as well as the gambler; we wonder if our behavior could possibly trigger the gambling.
We worry about how easy it is to gamble on electronic devices and become frustrated at our inability to manage this ease of access for our gambler.
We feel hopeless, isolated and alone, too embarrassed or ashamed to confide in close family members and friends.
Take this quick screening* to help determine whether it’s time to take action for your gambling behavior.
During the past 12 months, have you become restless, irritable or anxious when trying to stop/cut down on gambling?
During the past 12 months, have you tried to keep your family or friends from knowing how much you gambled?
During the past 12 months, did you have such financial trouble as a result of your gambling that you had to get help with living expenses from your family, friends or welfare?
You are not interested in changing. You do not want to think or talk about it. You do not see gambling as a problem. Others may have told you that your gambling is a problem for them.
You might begin to see your gambling has a downside, but you are not ready to give it up. You may be more willing to talk about it. You are unsure about changing but you are mulling it over.
You may set clear goals to change with your counselor, such as setting time and money limits on when and how much you will gamble. You might be thinking about making bigger changes. You might consider taking a short break from gambling to get some perspective.
You take action. You reduce or stop gambling. Your gambling is a problem that needs your attention. This stage may take more of your time and energy. You may slip up and gamble again. Many people slip up, learning as they go.
You have decided to stop gambling for six or more months, and you work hard to maintain this decision. Gambling slips occur, and while upsetting to your and your family, you understand that a slip up helps you understand your gambling better. Slip ups strengthen your resolve to change your gambling.
You and your counselor develop a plan that includes:
Counseling with a GAP certified counselor is free and confidential to Nebraskans and their families. You can receive free and confidential face-to-face counseling remotely, too, from the comfort of your office or home computer or mobile device.
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